12.10.06
Forgiveness and Dismissal
This is adapted from a comment I left over at Toy Soldiers
Forgiveness is a gift that you give to the person or people who abused you. They owe you more than they can ever repay, and you cancel the debt as a gift to them. If they are genuinely remorseful, you can accept that remorse in part payment of the debt, and forgive the rest. But it’s a voluntary act of giving. Nobody has any business demanding a gift, or saying that you should give a gift, or that you need to give a gift in order to recover.
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Trackbacks, Apologies, and Talking to Daran
Marcella feels Publicly attacked by me:
Nobody checked to see if Daran’s missing trackback got caught in the spam filter or the like and simply assumed that his impression that he had been deliberately censored was correct. It was just assumed that I am one of those nasty feminists who … you can fill in the blank from what people have written.
I had already spoken with Amp about the trackbacks, and he had assured me that neither he, nor you had deliberately deleted the trackbacks. I am familiar with WordPress’s ability to randomly delete things outright, as well as the spam-fairy’s depredations, so I happily withdraw the allegation and apologise for assuming that they had been deleted intentionally.
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